The Collegian

Issue date: 2/10/10 Section: Opinion

Lorpu Cooper

Q. Why do women still expect men to pay for dates? I been chilling with this girl for about three months now and she has never paid or even offered to pay for anything. I like her and would want to make her my girl but I think she's a gold digger. I need a girl that can hold her own, what should I do?

A. Wow! Ok, well I definitely cannot speak for all the ladies due to the fact that all women do not expect men to pay for dates, but considering the fact that I am a lady that definitely expects a man to come prepared to pay, this answer will be from my personal view.

As a lady, I always expect a guy that says he is interested in me to treat me like a queen. On average a king takes care of his queen, this does not mean that she cannot take care of herself. I look at it this way; before you came along, she had something going for herself; I believe this is why you found her intriguing. I say this simply because, I often hear men using the word "gold digger" as a negative connotation toward women. I do not believe a woman is a "gold digger" merely because she expects a guy to take care of her or even treat her a certain way. On the other hand I do believe it is very important for a lady to show her appreciation every now and then.

Women… men have feelings just as we do; they also like to be treated and made to feel special. In your case, sure it is essential that you take a step back and give her the opportunity to treat you.

I am unsure of how these situations work out, but I am under the impression that you are assuming that she is not willing to pay therefore you are always picking up the tab. Some may say that if she really wanted to pay then she would intercept and make it known. This may be true, but all females are not the same. Due to the fact that I believe you are always reaching for the tab, then maybe she feels as if you are the kind of guy that feels uncomfortable with his girl paying for anything.

My suggestion is that while planning to go out, you ask her in a playful manner whether she is willing to pay for the upcoming outing and hear what she says. This will give you an idea of where her head is and whether you want to go further with this young lady or call it quits.

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