Ask Lorpu: My boyfriend got some girl pregnant. Should I stay with him?
Lorpu Cooper
Issue date: 3/1/10 Section: Opinion
Question: Ok, I am too pissed off right now! My boyfriend has recently told me there's a possibility that another girl maybe pregnant for him. He keeps begging me not to leave him; I do not know what to do! Should I stay or should I leave!
Answer: Honestly sweetheart, this is not a question that needs an answer. I believe you know what needs to be done. I know it hurts to have to deal with such a situation caused by someone whom you presumed cared about you, but as hard as it may be, you must leave this situation and never look back! This guy does NOT love or respect you.
Regardless of what he says he is a selfish person who only cares about himself. There is no way that you can build anything with this person; therefore you need to move on! I am unsure of your expectations in a partner, but I am almost certain that you do not want someone who is two-timing. If you stay with this person you will receive many more years of deception.
If this guy really considered your feelings then this situation would not even be up for discussion. Look at it this way; right before he was disloyal, if there was a moment in which he thought of you, but went ahead anyway, his disrespect for you is apparent. And if he did not think about you at all, then you are not as important to him as you thought.
Furthermore, not only did this guy disrespect you, but to add insult to injury he did not have the decency to use protection. The fact that he did not use any method of protection proves that he does not care about his life and definitely not yours. I believe you can do so much better than someone who will treat you so unfairly. If you take this guy back now he will continue to mistreat you, so move on.
A guy that really loves, cares and cherishes you would have never done anything such as this. The fact that he is begging you to stay is just a test. If you take him back now, you will be telling him that you will stand for his entire nonsense, which is unacceptable.
At the end of the day I want you to understand that you are worthy of better. Good luck!
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Answer: Honestly sweetheart, this is not a question that needs an answer. I believe you know what needs to be done. I know it hurts to have to deal with such a situation caused by someone whom you presumed cared about you, but as hard as it may be, you must leave this situation and never look back! This guy does NOT love or respect you.
Regardless of what he says he is a selfish person who only cares about himself. There is no way that you can build anything with this person; therefore you need to move on! I am unsure of your expectations in a partner, but I am almost certain that you do not want someone who is two-timing. If you stay with this person you will receive many more years of deception.
If this guy really considered your feelings then this situation would not even be up for discussion. Look at it this way; right before he was disloyal, if there was a moment in which he thought of you, but went ahead anyway, his disrespect for you is apparent. And if he did not think about you at all, then you are not as important to him as you thought.
Furthermore, not only did this guy disrespect you, but to add insult to injury he did not have the decency to use protection. The fact that he did not use any method of protection proves that he does not care about his life and definitely not yours. I believe you can do so much better than someone who will treat you so unfairly. If you take this guy back now he will continue to mistreat you, so move on.
A guy that really loves, cares and cherishes you would have never done anything such as this. The fact that he is begging you to stay is just a test. If you take him back now, you will be telling him that you will stand for his entire nonsense, which is unacceptable.
At the end of the day I want you to understand that you are worthy of better. Good luck!
MORE FROM LORPU: Why are men so afraid of commitment?
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