Ask Lorpu: I really like my new girl, but I still have feelings for my ex
Dervedia Thomas
Issue date: 3/9/10 Section: Opinion
Q. Dear Lorpu, I need a female's help on this one. I have been in a relationship with my girl for about five months. I really like her, but I have a huge problem. Before getting with her, I was in a long-term relationship with my ex-girlfriend for about three years. My ex and I are still friends. She recently told me that she still has feelings for me and if the opportunity presented itself, she would want us to get back together. I really like my new girl, but I still have feelings for my ex. I do not want to hurt my girl or my ex; what do you suggest Lorpu?
A. First, I commend you for asking this question because many individuals would take an opportunity like this and use it to their advantage. In a situation such as this, it is important to evaluate what each individual has to bring to the table.
Carefully consider what you want from a relationship then make the best decision for you. Unfortunately, it is inevitable that some one will be hurt no matter what decision you make. Honestly, I do not believe you should be in a relationship due to the fact that you are still emotionally attached to someone else.
I am unaware of why you and your ex called it quits and although you all are still friends, obviously you all did not find the relationship strong enough to hold on to. When making this decision you should cautiously consider every aspect of this situation.
Once your conclusion has been made, there is no guarantee however that either young lady will be willing to take you back if things do not work out with the other.
A. First, I commend you for asking this question because many individuals would take an opportunity like this and use it to their advantage. In a situation such as this, it is important to evaluate what each individual has to bring to the table.
Carefully consider what you want from a relationship then make the best decision for you. Unfortunately, it is inevitable that some one will be hurt no matter what decision you make. Honestly, I do not believe you should be in a relationship due to the fact that you are still emotionally attached to someone else.
I am unaware of why you and your ex called it quits and although you all are still friends, obviously you all did not find the relationship strong enough to hold on to. When making this decision you should cautiously consider every aspect of this situation.
Once your conclusion has been made, there is no guarantee however that either young lady will be willing to take you back if things do not work out with the other.
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John C Vincent
posted 3/09/10 @ 11:42 AM EST
First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth saving.
While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work,
both parties must decide that they want to make it work. (Continued…)
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